Good morning friends,
Today’s blog delves into a prevalent issue facing millions of Americans: loneliness. According to the U.S. Surgeon General’s advisory report dated August 8, 2023, loneliness has become more widespread than any other health concern in the United States. Shockingly, one in two adults in the U.S. experiences measurable levels of loneliness. Dr. Vivek Murthy has highlighted the grave dangers associated with loneliness, linking it to greater risk of cardiovascular disease, dementia, stroke, depression, anxiety and premature death. So how do we address this pervasive issue?
The remedy lies in building community. Renowned sociologist Dr. Brene’ Brown asserts that “Connection is why we are here. We are hardwired to connect with others; its what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it there is suffering.”
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs places Love and Belonging on the third rung of the ladder, just above physiological and safety needs. This underscores human necessity for love, belonging, friendship, intimacy, family, and sense of connection. We need to find our tribe!
Jennie Allen, author of “Find Your People: Building Deep Community in a Lonely World” offers seven key lessons in building community:
- Acknowledge the Loneliness Epidemic
- Challenge the Myth of Self-Sufficiency
- Prioritize Proximity
- Embrace Vulnerability and Authenticity
- Identify Your Needs and Role as a Friend
- The Five Ingredients of Friendship
- Nurture Your Community
Reflecting on the alarming prevalence of loneliness, one must consider its root causes. Have we, as a society, substituted digital communication for genuine personal interaction? Have we unintentionally marginalized and isolated large segments of our population based on race, sexual orientation, disabilities, mental health, age or cognitive ability? Marginalized individuals, as per the World Health Organization, face higher risks of mental health issues due to discrimination, social exclusion, and economic disparities. These factors hinder their chances of finding acceptance and a sense of belonging.
Additionally, societal changes such as dispersed families and the aging population contribute to the loneliness epidemic. Efforts to stay connected with scattered family members have become increasingly challenging, leading to a sense of loss regarding familial gatherings and traditions. The elderly are particularly vulnerable to loneliness due to factors like living alone, chronic illness, loss of loved ones, and sensory impairments. Aging also brings about identity shifts, financial constraints and lifestyle changes, exacerbating feelings of isolation.
However, there is hope. Regardless of one’s circumstances, building community is possible. There are individuals seeking connection, understanding, and support. By reaching out and fostering community bonds, we can all lead happier, more fulfilling lives.
Personal Experience: Finding Community in Greenville
Less than two years ago, I relocated to Greenville, SC., knowing no one. Despite its many attractions, what drew me to Greenville was its vibrant community. The Osher Lifelong Learning Institute (OLLI) program at Furman University became my haven providing friendship, intellectual stimulation, and a sense of belonging. Through classes and special interest groups, I found like-minded individuals committed to personal growth and lifelong learning.
Finding a church was another pivotal step in building community. After visiting several churches, I found a home at First Baptist of Greenville. With its progressive values, diverse congregation, and a commitment to social justice, it provided a welcoming space where I could grow in my faith and worship with fellow believers.
If you or someone you know is experiencing loneliness, I urge you to seek out communities that align with your values and needs. Whether it’s through local organizations, support groups, or interest-based clubs, there are opportunities waiting for you to connect.
How About You?
Have you experienced loneliness? How did you overcome it? Please share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below or reach out to me directly. I’m eager to hear from you!
Let’s continue the conversation and work towards building a more connected and compassionate society.
Warm regards,
Yvonne